We all experience setbacks at some point in our lives.
I recently overcame one...
The demands of being a daughter, mom, and professional during COVID hit hard. When things finally calmed down, I wasn’t in a place emotionally, physically, or cognitively to set goals, be consistent, or make any commitments to myself. On the outside, it looked like I had it all. But on the inside...
I was crumbling.
It took everything in me just to make it through the day. After realizing what was happening, I knew I had two choices: keep spiraling, or break the cycle.
I started to make small (but profound) shifts in my every day life that supported my mental, physical, emotional, and spiritual health. I learned how to ask for help and built a strong community that helped me be able to show up for myself, family, and friends in meaningful ways.
In this blog post, I'm going to be sharing some of the top mindset shifts and wellness strategies that helped me overcome my setback and create a life I love.
5 Proven Ways To Overcome Obstacles & Create A Life You Love
1. Acknowledge Your Feelings and Process Them
Whenever a hardship in life is thrown into your path, the most important thing is to take a break and process it. It’s human nature to want to automatically move into fixing mode. Oftentimes, we believe it is better to push through the pain without acknowledging our feelings.
However, this can greatly hinder your healing process. When you deny or minimize your feelings, it becomes much more challenging to move forward.
One simple tool you can use to process your feelings is to journal.
Journaling can help you accept instead of judge your thoughts. This can result in fewer negative emotions experienced in response to stress.
Writing down your thoughts can help you to express and explore your emotions in a safe and private space, gain clarity and perspective on your thoughts and experiences, identify patterns and triggers, and develop a deeper understanding of yourself and your emotional needs.
2. Learn From Your Setbacks
Reframe the setback as a learning opportunity. You can learn more about yourself, your relationships, your values, and your impact on the world when you experience an obstacle.
Here are some tips to use when you’re contemplating your setback and the reason behind it:
Ultimately, you should focus on what you can control rather than perseverate over things that are out of your control. This will help you reduce those feelings of helplessness and hopelessness.
As a result, you can focus on what you can fix, and break tasks into manageable pieces that can be completed one at a time. This is an important building block in creating a life you love.
3. Plan Your Next Steps
Once you have reevaluated your goals and set new ones, now is the time to take action.
It's easy to get stuck in a rut, but if you’ve put in the work to acknowledge your feelings and learn from this experience, planning the next steps can help you move forward.
It's important to keep taking action toward your goals, even when it feels difficult or daunting. I suggest reading James Clear's book Atomic Habits: An Easy & Proven Way to Build Good Habits & Break Bad Ones to help you get started!
4. Prioritize Your Physical & Emotional Health
When you're going through a difficult time, it's easy to lose lose momentum and fall back into old habits. However, taking care of yourself is crucial if you're looking to overcome the difficult situation you are in.
Be sure to focus on:
Overcoming one setback will better prepare you for any future obstacles you may face.
Here are my tips for building a healthy lifestyle that will help you overcome your setback:
5. Pay It Forward
If you have experienced a setback that you once believed was impossible to overcome, think about how your experiences can be used to help those who are in a similar position.
Small acts of kindness and support can make a big impact on someone's life.
By giving back and helping others, you can turn your difficult situation into an opportunity to make a positive difference in the world.
Here Are 10 Ways to Pay it Forward:
Every journey has setbacks, but they don't have to define you.
By acknowledging your feelings, reframing setbacks as opportunities, taking action, practicing self-care, getting support, paying it forward and continually learning and growing, you can overcome setbacks and create a life you love.
I’ve experienced setbacks that kept me from living to my full potential.
I’m here to tell you:
You have the power to create the life you desire. You just need to be brave enough to make it a reality.
Let’s make today be your Turning Pointe!
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I look forward to hearing how I can help you create a life you love.